Communicating and Teaching About the Craft

"Mom, I'm a Witch."

Discussion about your religion usually begins with family members. When considering broaching the topic, take a look at their lives. Do they enjoy watching Montel Williams when psychic Sylvia Browne appears as a guest? Do they buy crystals as "decorations", try to recycle whenever possible, read their horoscope in the newspaper? If so, then you have more common ground to build on. If, on the other hand, they are Fundamentalist Christians, you may want to either rethink telling them or REALLY think through before you tell them. One of the easier methods to break the ice is to leave obviously magickal books or magazines lying around, maybe even leave them on the back of the toilet. Or, if you happen to have a taped documentary about the Craft lying around, leave it running and watch what kind of reactions you get.

One of the most important points you can make when talking to friends or family about the Craft is that everything they have learned about the Craft up until that point has most likely been what the media and church has taught them. YOU have to become the starting point for new understanding, so keep a cool head and a warm heart.

Explain the research you have done on the nature of your faith and what it means to you on a daily basis. Emphasize that this is not a cult or a fad, pointing out the positive nature of Wicca/Paganism, perhaps most importantly the law of "Harm none". Time and patience will be your best ally, because the longer you live in magickal reality, the more people will see the truth in your words instead of depending on preconceived notions. It is not recommended that you open yourself up to everyone you meet, but if you choose to disclose your faith to others, keep the following in mind:

1. Keep yourself informed. Anticipate common questions that people will ask and have intelligent answers ready. Always accentuate the positive.
2. Don't assume the person you are speaking to has any knowledge of magickal jargon. Explain yourself in simple, down-to-earth terms they can relate to.
3. Keep calm. Your actions speak louder than words.
4. As silly as this may sound, answer any questions with sincerity. If you don't know the correct answer, DON'T MAKE IT UP. Admit that you don't know, but that you will find out for them. Remember that the only exposure this person may have had to the Craft is beginning with you.
5. Remember to show as much respect for their ideas and beliefs as you hope for your own. Tolerance is the greatest tool to better understanding.
6. You have absolutely nothing to apologize for. Be firm yet courteous. Magick is not a gimmick or fad to get attention, it is a way of life that means a lot to you and many others.
7. Don't try to share too much information too quickly. It is better to let a little bit digest quickly, and then build on that foundation.
8. Wisdom is a good thing to keep close to you. As difficult as it may be, there are times to speak and times to be silent. Learning which is which can save a lot of unnecessary confrontations, and more importantly makes any conversation more productive.
9. Avoid cosmic lingo. Most of the time these expressions are misunderstood by common people to begin with, and unless you explain yourself, they will rely on whatever knowledge they have to try and put what you are saying into a system they can comprehend.
10. Know when you are just wasting your time. There will always be people who want to banter about your beliefs just to get you riled up, or in an effort to prove you wrong. In these situations, it is usually better to bow out gracefully and let the matter rest.
11. When attending a discussion/gathering/seminar where the opposition is speaking, remember:

By following these basic guidelines, you will find that your experience talking about the Craft and Craft-related ideology are generally more positive. Recognize that you will first have to educate people on the truth about magick and its history before any kind of positive perceptions can be born in them. In a land which was supposedly founded on religious freedom, the responsibilty for educating others about the Craft are still largely in our hands. As lond as we practice our religion in good faith, practicing what we preach, we can make a profound difference on the way others see our religion.


One way to educate those close to you is to give them Marion Weinstein's book, Positive Magick, or Scott Cunningham's The Truth About Witchcraft Today. Marion Weinstein's book is good to give people who are not comfortable with the "W" word. Both books are marvelous for anyone else. Be prepared to answer their questions as they read. Try not to get on the defensive.

Staying in the Closet

Some Witches prefer never to come out of the broom closet. This can be a very intelligent decision when confronting others may cause you to be disowned or cause you and your family great pain. Some just feel that the Craft is a totally relgious belief and don't feel the need to share it with the world in general. There is nothing wrong with this as long as you feel comfortable with this decision. When you are ready to tell your family and friends, make sure you have done your research, and center yourself before the discussion begins. Witchcraft is going to go where you take it.

Urban Pagan by Patricia Tolesco
To Ride a Silver Broomstick by Silver Ravenwolf